How to Find The Right Road To Walk Free From Anxiety

Do you ever find yourself in the same situation, anxious and cross with yourself and with life, questioning “how did I end up here again?” or worse – “Why does this keep happening to me?”

The truth is the same issues will keep showing up in your life until you learn the lesson and realise that it’s your beliefs about yourself and how you react as a result, that keeps you repeating a pattern of events - which leads you to where you least want to be. Ironically we attract the very thing we most want to avoid.

As the new year opens up, the top tipping points in this first month tend to include relationship exasperation, and feeling bewildered in your current job position. As you struggle with circumstance, you may suffer with problems sleeping, anxiety and phobias, stress, panic attacks, confidence issues, even migraine, IBS, Asthma and Chronic Fatigue.

Why? ...Because these physical symptoms are a way to release your pent-up emotional stress. Your unconscious mind knows you are in trouble and it is triggering a self-protective physical response by finding what 'seems' a safer vehicle of expression (or release) than if you were to confront your distress head on. It's an emotionally intelligent autonomic response, but practically it hinders you all the more when you're already struggling to cope!

This stress response reminds me of an anecdote I was told by American Personal Development Guru and reformed alcoholic, the late Wayne Dwyer. A lady called Porsche Nelson was asked in a workshop to write on a postcard the five chapters of her life.

This is what she wrote… ‘The Hole in the Road’.

Chapter 1:

I walk down the street, there’s a hole in the road. I don’t see it, I fall in. It isn’t my fault and I get out as quickly as possible.

Chapter 2:

I walk down the street, there’s a hole in the road. I don’t see it, I fall in. It IS my fault and I get out as quickly as possible.

Chapter 3:

I walk down the street, there’s a hole in the road. I see it, I STILL fall in. It is my fault and I get out as quickly as possible.

Chapter 4:

I walk down the street, there’s a hole in the road. I see it. I walk around it.

Chapter 5:

I walk down a different street.

Once you know what you want and where you want to go, you can begin to move forward walking along that new street. You may need support and encouragement to help you to integrate self-understanding into your daily conscious awareness to create positive lasting change that builds your confidence, and frees you from anxiety and low self-esteem. You will begin to acknowledge that you can be true to yourself, you can enjoy better health, you can perform to your best ability; you can be who you want to be…

The streets we walk down and the holes we find there are unique to us all. The time I personally spent falling in and clambering out of the holes in my past, along side my 25 years successfully supporting others like you, serves me to help YOU to find your way quicker to self-awareness and responsibility, so that you may see the hole for yourself more easily, and learn to walk around it... to find your way at the right time for you, to a new street paved with self-acceptance, self-confidence and self-belief.

If you need help to see the hole, to climb out or to find your way to a different street in whatever way that 'street' might look for you just now, it would be my absolute pleasure to help you.

You can book a consultation with me here.

Warmly,

Lisa x

Lisa Skeffington is a multi-award-winning consultant psychotherapist and self-esteem expert. She is the Founder of the Empowered Momentum Community, an exclusive membership for ambitious midlife women, and her latest book, ‘From Anxious to Empowered’, is out now.